f you have embarked on the muddy waters of modern dating, you know the path ahead is full of ghosting, stashing and benching. Adding to your list of obstacles is a new term, submarineing. The act of submarineing, of course, existed long before the dawn of online dating. But what does it mean? According to Metro, submarineing is when your potential love interest disappears without notice (similar to ghosting, but not quite that), reappears at their own convenience, and pretends as if nothing has changed.
So why the term “submarineing”? This modern dating quirk has been compared to sailors of olden days. Once they were shipped off, there would be no sign or news of them. Their friends and families would wait and the sailors would reappear on their own sweet time while the lives of others had moved on.
Similar to ghosters, submariners have no repentance for their behaviour and how they must have made the other person feel. They do not apologise for the disappearing act. In fact, they pretend to pick up from where they left off without any explanation. So, this isn’t just being dumped by the vanishing act, it’s also being taken for granted. No calls, no texts, radio silence at all attempts of communications for months and sudden response because the person needs you.
What can you do about it? You may feel like you’re finally getting some closure or the person is getting back to you. But the only way to end this hide-and-seek act is to stop all forms of communication with the person. If someone does not appreciate you for who you are, then it’s time to move on.