4 Online Dating Photo Secrets From the Most-Messaged Woman on OkCupid


Lauren Urasek was just minding her own business when New York Magazine contacted her one day last year and told her that, according to some serious math, she was the most-messaged girl in New York City on OkCupid.

That’s when her life kind of blew up — strangers would bombard Urasek with questions about her crazyDATING stories. She had enough tales of meeting pervy and bizarro men that she just wrote a book about it, called ?Popular.

This shot was taken at a networking event. A girl asked me to take a snap of her, and then offered to return the favor. (Note: If you’re shy about asking people to take pics, this is a great way to get one without having to be the first one to ask). I like to pose with my stomach in, chest up, butt out, and arm notDIRECTLY pressed against me.

The lighting in the room was great — it was at eye level and not overhead, which creates weird shadows. I was wearing a new dress, so I was feeling good. I vignetted the border to take the focus away from the other people sitting around me, but I didn’t crop them out entirely because it helps to show that I have a life and I’m out in the world doing things (i.e., not just a full body mirror pic).

A snap of doing something interesting (like this pic of me hiking at Antelope Canyon) is an instant icebreaker. People who have been there are always excited to share their experience. People who haven’t ask me if this is real, where it is, if I edited the background (I only upped the contrast, but for its 99.99999 percent real).

Side note: I think it’s good to have at least one shot with minimal makeup on so everyone can see the real you.

?One day, I was at a MAC store visiting my friend and I noticed that the lighting was amazing in there. Ever since, I can’t pop in to see him without taking a few pics. When I was ready to snap this, there was a girl behind me who kept getting into my shot, so I (very politely, of course) asked her to move out of my selfie zone. I used this image as my profile pic for a while because it’s a pretty good representation of what I look like every day (not super glammed up).

I’m not usually pro-mirror selfies, but there are a few exceptions: When they’re clean (no laundry or unmade bed in the background), when you look into the camera, not the mirror (which creates eye contact instead of that weird wandering eye look), and when they show you out doing something that reveals a hobby or piece of yourPERSONALITY. I get so many messages about hockey because of this pic!

?One last thing: I you still need help deciding which pics might lead you down lovers lane, download The Grade?. It’s an app that rates photos to show which will get the best response.

Source: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/style-beauty/a48423/how-to-make-dating-profile-photo-look-good/


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