I’ve been married now for a total of 16 years. I have three beautiful kids and a wife many men would kill for. She’s a great mother, attractive, smart, caring, self-aware and great in bed. That’s not to say she’s perfect because, like any other person on earth, she has her flaws.
Marriage is incredibly difficult, especially in this day and age. Between the picture society paints about marriage and all those fun (yet destructive) “distractions” that technology has afforded us, it’s surprising the divorce rate isn’t even higher. I can proudly say that today my marriage is stronger than ever. Just a few months ago, I couldn’t say that. In fact, my marriage was at rock bottom. For the past several months, my wife and I have done a TREMENDOUS amount of work on both ourselves as well as our marriage. I wasn’t “present” in my marriage and convinced myself that I was working on my marriage. In reality, I wasn’t doing the work. I was good at pointing fingers, deflecting and playing the role of victim. As evolved as us men like to sometimes think we are; often we see things through a very narrow lens. I’ve made a lot of mistakes over the years. Here are five simple things you can stop doing TODAY that will save (or improve) your marriage.