Further, it should come as no surprise that Kaufman is not a fan of ghosting. “In the simplest of terms, it’s rude and hurtful,” she says. And having worked with plenty of clients who have found themselves “ghosted,” she’s thinks that perhaps, to survive in the app dating economy, we ought to arm ourselves against this sort of thing. If we find ourselves ghosted early on in a virtual relationship, she thinks it’s important that we learn ways of merely letting go (breathe, man!). Further along, when the act is more egregious, Kaufman suggests reaching out and (politely) requesting closure. This is very much your right — and it will certainly feel better than allowing yourself to sit and stew while you wait for contact.