Bumble puts the ball in your court, and while that may make you feel on your game, it can also be intimidating. Instead of lying back and waiting for messages to roll in, you’ll have to think up a few conversation starters for Bumble — and prepare yourself to be a little bit brave.
Try catering to each individual. Showing that you’ve actually taken the time to read their profile will help you stand out and make it easier to start a witty back-and-forth. And avoid literally just saying hi to someone on a dating app, because nothing kills the mood faster than an opening line that leads nowhere.
But those aren’t the only things to keep in mind when sending messages on Bumble. “When you’re talking to someone on the apps, try to make it feel as ‘real-life’ as possible,” Veronica Grant, life and dating coach, tells Bustle. “Pick up lines feel gross if you’re at a bar, and the same goes for online.” (I will, however, get into a few funny “pick up lines” later on.)
If you don’t hear back after shooting your shot, move on! When the person doesn’t give you much to work off of, Grant says, it isn’t worth it to keep pushing. But if your conversation starter is a success, she suggests making plans to meet up in person or on a video chat date — ASAP, as that’s the best way to truly assess if you’re a good match.
Below, some fun ways to get people talking on dating apps, so you can message anyone who strikes your fancy with confidence and ease.
Veronica Grant, love and life coach
Katie Grimes, dating coach
Susan Trombetti, matchmaker
Nancy Ruth Deen, relationship coach