“A guy who I had lots of mutual friends with and had a massive crush on ghosted me after we had chatted for a month and had finally decided to sleep together. On the day it was meant to happen, he just started ignoring my messages.
I raged for a bit, then did the Insta-chop (blocking and then unblocking him so we weren’t following each other anymore), and tried to forget about it.
Two months later my book got picked up to be published and he randomly messaged me to meet up again, ostensibly to congratulate me.
Turns out he had a 22-year-old girlfriend he’d been sleeping next to every night the whole time he was messaging me. But he ghosted me an hour before we were meant to have sex because he’s ‘not that guy’.
He told me that the girlfriend had moved to China now, so did I want to pick up where we left off?”
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“I was ghosted after three months, the night before we had been talking on the phone and he said ‘I love you’.
The next day I texted to see if he wanted to go to the movies. No reply. The next day I texted and called, and it went straight to voicemail. I had this sinking feeling in my gut and looked up what happens when someone blocks your number and voila! I’d been blocked.
He didn’t tell me at the time what the reason was and I was devastated. But then months later he messaged me on (of all things) Snapchat and told me that he’d gotten back with his child’s mum and evidently didn’t have the balls to fess up and just tell me.”
“I didn’t put out the first time and he couldn’t be bothered trying again, but, and I quote ‘I’m really horny and thought maybe I can be bothered giving it another crack, and, let’s be honest, I made you want it more by ghosting you didn’t I?’
I promptly told him to go f*ck himself.”
“I met a guy on Bumble (my first bumble date ever). At first, I wasn’t sure if I was attracted to him but we went on a second date anyway. He seemed SO into me, texting me all the time, making plans and following through, he even drove all the way from Brisbane to Byron Bay for one night just to see me because I was staying there for five days and he ‘missed me’.
I started to like him and we were seeing each other and sleeping together for a couple of months. Then out of nowhere, he started acting distant. He slept over at my place one night (against my better judgement…) and in the morning I asked him, ‘will I see you again?’ He replied, ‘yes you will’.
Then, I didn’t hear from him. I sent him a couple of messages but he never replied.
About a month later I received a long message at 1am from him apologising, telling me that he’d had a lot of problems at work and one of his friends had received a bad health diagnosis and that was the reason he stopped talking to me.
He wanted me to know that ‘It had nothing to do with you but I also don’t expect you to forgive me’.
I replied and said it was fine and I understand. I’ve never spoken to him since.”
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