2GB Breakfast host Ben Fordham says women not only need to make the first move in dating but also be the ones to propose.
“Ladies of Australia, women of the world, please, if we really want to change the gender imbalance out there, it’s time that you took the lead. It’s time that you asked that man out. It’s time that you told him he looks hot and it’s time that you said the words that we all want to hear. ‘Honey, will you marry me?'” he says.
He’s got me on that one. I’m going to admit something, and I feel like a bad feminist for it, but I totally stage managed Darren’s proposal to me.
I definitely wanted him to ask but I made sure that it was with the ring that I wanted and in the location I wanted. Getting married was something we both wanted. Yet I really wanted him to be the one that ask. I’m not even sure why?
A study of three different US Universities showed two thirds of men felt they had to make the first move.
We have dating sites like Bumble where women make the first move. I even have a friend who married a guy she chose to match with on that site. It shows that some women aren’t afraid of making the first move and it’s certainly paying off.
So, why is a woman making the first move still feel a little stigmatised?
“Women still want to take a back seat on so many of these crucial things and not take ownership for the situation and step up. How many women out there have got the guts to actually say, ‘You know what, I liked the look of this guy. I like the sound of this guy. I’m going to invite him out’,” Ben says.
A dating site showed research that 40 per cent of men who make the first move are contacting women significantly more attractive than themselves.
That cockiness means they often got dates where they are punching well above their weight. It also showed women are very unlikely to do the same.
“I would say it would be 85 to 90 per cent of the time, the bloke makes the first move. Women need to step up and have a crack,” he says.
I think he might be right. And you know what ladies, let’s take a leaf out of the men’s books and aim higher. Ask that guy out who you think is out of your league. They would.