It’s not unusual to experience some bumps in the online dating road. Everyone is out there with their feelings, trying to make a meaningful (or casual!) connection, and sometimes it doesn’t go exactly as planned. In an effort to help you #BumbleBetter, we asked The Kit readers to submit their burning online dating questions, then we posed a selection of them to Meredith Gillies, Senior Marketing Manager of Bumble Canada, who knows all the ins and outs of the app. Read on for some seriously useful intel.
Any ideas on how to date during this pandemic? I was thinking that we could make the same dinner and then eat it over Zoom. Is this fine for a first “pandemic date” or is it too much? —Amelia, 35
The first thing to remember is virtual dating is new to everyone, so don’t think you’re being extra by setting up an interactive first date. Bumble’s data shows that people are having longer in-app video calls (the average time is 29 minutes in Canada). Virtual dates don’t have to feel completely different from what you’d normally do on a first date—you can grab an afternoon coffee, have a glass of wine, play a game or watch a movie together. We’ve heard that people are feeling more relaxed when virtually connecting directly from Bumble using our in-app video calling feature, because they don’t have to exchange personal information like phone numbers or change out of their sweatpants.
I find it really hard to start up a conversation with a guy. Do you have any tips on a successful intro line other than, “Oh, hey there”? —Allie, 29
You are not alone in feeling at a loss for words when starting a conversation! Good news for you—we recently launched the Question Game, which can act as your first move with a new match. Choose from some of the in-app questions provided or type your own; once you both respond, the answer will appear in a chat and you can discuss the responses.
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Is it better to use a profile picture where you’re wearing full makeup and have your hair done, or be more natural? Which gets more attention? —Anonymous, 30
Your pictures should be authentic, a real reflection of who you are. Show off your smile, your eyes and your entire face—without a filter. Graphic overlays or FaceTune are distracting and a big turn-off to many. Choose a combination of your favourite photos so people can see more of your personality—and yes, you should have six pictures! Including three or more photos increases your chance of matching with someone by 31 per cent. Don’t put a group photo as your first pic and avoid wearing sunglasses.
Your profile is your chance to showcase slices of your actual life. If your dog is the centre of your world, include a cute snap of you and the pup. (However, “dogfishing” is a new trend to avoid—don’t borrow a friend’s pet to reel someone in!)
I don’t want to waste my time with anyone who’s just on a dating app to have fun. How can I attract men who are looking for the real deal? —Anonymous, 29
Around Valentine’s Day 2020, which truly feels like forever ago, we polled 4,000 Canadian Bumble users about what success looks like to them on the app. Results showed 18 per cent said they are looking for a casual romantic relationship, such as a hookup or friends with benefits; 27 per cent said they are open to anything; and 46 per cent of respondents said they are on Bumble looking for a long-term romantic relationship. We recommend swiping with an open mind and staying positive! Don’t get defeated if a match isn’t the one. Be clear on your profile and use all the features available to you. Add a badge that shows what you’re looking for, use your bio and answer profile prompts so fellow users have the most information about you possible.
My friend went to meet someone from a dating site and was expecting a tall, blond Swedish guy, and the person who showed up was quite the opposite. My question is, how do you confirm that the person is really who they say they are? —Lucy, 31
Next time, make sure they have a little blue check mark on their Bumble profile, which means they’ve undergone Photo Verification to combat this type of catfishing. It only takes a moment—a user takes a real-time selfie in the same pose as an image provided by the app, submits it and a third-party moderator compares it to their profile photos and verifies them if everything checks out.
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This content was created by The Kit; Bumble funded and approved it.