How to create a successful online dating profile and find love, in seven steps


Stephanie Chan has plenty of tips for designing an online dating profile. Picture: Craig Wilson

An online dating profile should be like a movie trailer and only show the best bits, according to former business executive turned-life coach Stephanie Chan.

Ms Chan said she had not been in her new career long before she started noticing the same classic mistakes being made by professional women looking for love.

“They don’t understand that, as much as they don’t like it, it is a sales process,” she said.

After reading women’s online profiles and talking to the men viewing them, she wanted to help by showing women how to apply their business skills to dating.

With a few simple tricks, anyone can find love online.

DON’T UNDERESTIMATE YOURSELF

Ms Chan said she noticed despite being successful in their careers, women would often underestimate themselves.

“They start with all the bad things and think it’s being modest, but they have to remember that a profile is like a movie trailer — it’s all the best bits,” she said

THE RIGHT SITE

Ms Chan said, make sure you choose the right dating site — ones that require payment will weed out a lot of time-wasters, but more importantly choose one that allows the man to email you directly because his opening message will tell you a lot about him straight away.

ONLINE DATING MISTAKES MEN MAKE

REAL LIFE MATING IN THE ERA OF ONLINE DATING

Make sure you check the privacy settings on your chosen site, and always be careful.

NOT TOO FAST, AND BE CLEAR

Try not to mention weddings in your first encounter.

Other women who had grown impatient waiting for love would put themselves out there too quickly, Ms Chan said.Get a clear idea on what you want: have your requirements set in advance, and don’t waste time chatting to anyone who doesn’t meet those, just because they’re good looking.

DON’T BE HIGH MAINTENANCE

“A princess looking for her prince — men look at that and think high maintenance.”

“Men might be looking for a long-term relationship, but it is like a big red flag … it is just too much pressure for them.”

As men were visual, the photos women used were also vital, she said.

DON’T BE SECOND CHOICE

It might seem like the most obvious rule, but an attractive photo will definitely help. Take time in selecting the correct one.

As well as making sure you look your best in the picture, also make sure that you aren’t overshadowed by a friend.

“You don’t put a photo up of you standing next to your hotter friend.”

Photos of you standing next to an ex-boyfriend or lover will also be frowned on by many.

SNEAKINESS HELPS

Sometimes you need to be sneaky, to weed out the rif-raf.

Use a filter. Weed out guys playing the numbers game by including a question they have to answer at the end of your profile.

If they don’t answer the question in their opening email to you, they haven’t read your profile. The question can also be something that clarifies whether they have a quality you want.

Ms Chan said online dating was a brilliant and efficient way to meet people, and probably about 80 per cent of couples she knew met online.

“Most people are actively online dating because we are so busy with careers, friends, hobbies and we don’t have time to go hanging around in bars.”

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Stephanie Chan (centre) holds free courses. Picture: Craig Wilson

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