It’s no secret that dating apps have ushered in a new world of difficulties. Sure, they make it easier to meet and chat to like-minded people, but it can be easy to fall into a virtual wormhole of dick pics, carefully curated profiles and difficult conversations which can sometimes do more harm than good. Driving these conversations is usually one word: preference. It’s true that we can’t control who we’re attracted to but, more and more, this term is being used as justification for thinly veiled discrimination based on everything from race and body type to class and gender identity. Try for a second to think about what might convince or prevent you from a simple swipe right – you might stumble upon some uncomfortable truths.
A FEW WEEKS AGO I WENT ON AN IDYLLIC DATE WHICH ENDED IN MULTIPLE ORGASMS… THEN, TWO DAYS LATER, A LENGTHY MESSAGE FROM THE GUY TELLING ME I WAS “FATTER THAN [HE] LIKED.”
WE ALL NEED TO THINK ABOUT HOW WE TALK TO ONE ANOTHER, BECAUSE QUEER PEOPLE WORLDWIDE ARE MORE MARGINALISED THAN EVER; THE LAST THING WE NEED IS IN-FIGHTING WITHIN THE COMMUNITY TO MAKE MATTERS WORSE.