A friendship, like any relationship, can be a lot of work. It’s not just finding someone to have a laugh and go to a random yoga class with, you have to put in the time and connect on an emotional level. Juggling different friendships means different emotions and not all of them will make the cut. Sometimes even the best and longest of friendships can run their course and eventually come to an end. While society has set clear rules for breaking up with a boyfriend or a business partner, no one ever tells you the “right” way to breakup with a friend. So how the hell do you tell someone you once called a friend that it’s just not working out?
How to Breakup with a Friend
The New Friend
How to Breakup: Since you two aren’t lifelong besties it’s ok to be brutally honest and say it’s just not working, but you have to have a reason. It will only confuse the situation if you two are fine one day and enemies the next. If you don’t like how ?judgmental she is, tell her. If she farts when she laughs and you can’t take it, pull up those big girl panties and tell her. You may not be able to handle it anymore, but guaranteed she’s got other friends and will be able to make more. Help the rest of the women out in the world and talk to her.
Being honest is the key and, while the conversation may feel a little awkward at first, you’ll leave feeling good about yourself and ready to take on the next challenge.
The Pushy Friend
How to Breakup: The pushy friend is usually over ambitious, hence their love for all things adventure and general zeal for doing a lot of stuff, all the time. It’s not that they’re bad people but it’s a hard fit for most people. I’m an active person, but I’m not trying to go cliff diving on a Saturday afternoon. Shit, sometimes you just want to grab a coffee. Breaking up with this friend requires an escape plan because they’re not going to get it, and they might even counter by lazy shaming you, but that’s not your problem. Here’s the trick: you want to be honest without making them feel like you’re judging or putting down their lifestyle and attitude. Tell them it’s just not your style, keep it simple and offer to join on the next adventure, maybe a year from now.
The Old Friend
How to Breakup: This is one breakup that should be handled with extreme care. While things may seem to have come to an end now, there is no telling where the future may take you. Don’t start a screaming match and don’t become a raging bitch, ripping her apart from head to toe. Just because you’re breaking up with a friend doesn’t mean you have to become enemies. Truth be told, if you’re considering breaking up with an old friend the best thing to do is to remain in good grace. This way you don’t have to worry about any dirty secrets flying around the internet and your good name can remain intact. You can’t erase the time you’ve shared and shouldn’t try to. Accept that you are growing and changing and make her understand as well. If she can’t understand, then you two really shouldn’t be friends anymore anyway.
The cardinal rule for breaking up with a friend is learning to accept that it’s no one’s fault. Placing blame in this situation won’t make breaking up with a friend any easier, it’s just taking the easy way out. Remember that not all friendships are meant to last forever and moving on is okay if that’s what you need to do. Each new relationship is an opportunity to learn and grow as an individual, so take what you can from each experience and walk your own badass path.
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