Dating #rules to #break in #2018


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Oh, how the dating world has changed. Gone are the days when a boy and girl met, fell in love and then lived happily ever after. Dating today involves a few more levels, many complicated games, and a dozen or more rules. Some make sense, some don’t. And if 2017 wasn’t your year, don’t worry. Here are some rules to break (let’s be honest. It’s more fun breaking rules than following them anyway, right?) in the new year to ensure it’s a year high on love for you. 

Not texting first
Um hello, this isn’t the 19th century! Who says the guy has to be the first one to initiate a conversation? Can you imagine losing out on something great just because you didn’t bother sending that ‘hi’ first? Besides, some people might just find it refreshing to see someone turn this rule on its head and you’d get brownie points for confidence too. 

Only texting
If you made the move and sent the first message, congratulations. Now just make sure that’s not all there is to this relationship. A relationship is hardly a relationship if it’s only virtual. There needs to be more than your phone’s beep beep to forge a connection with the other person. Make more of an effort to turn your textationship (what has our world even come to?) into a proper relationship. 

Wait until ______ date for the first kiss/before you have sex
Why let some universal rule override your gut feeling? You want to have sex on the first date? Great. You don’t want to have sex until you’re married? Also, great. You do you. 

Playing games
This one needs to stop right now. Let’s leave the game playing to kids and focus on relationships like mature adults, yeah? Let honesty be your best policy in 2018 as it avoids complication and the hair-pulling annoyance of trying to figure out mixed signals. 

Giving too much importance to the spark
Ah, the elusive spark! Also known as butterflies in your tummy or violins playing in the background. It’s always said  that if you don’t feel a spark on the first date, you probably never will. Except that’s not always true. Sometimes that spark does take time to develop so  stop writing guys off if you don’t feel anything. Give it few more dates before you decide. 

He has to pay the bill
Again, we’re in the 21st century. It’s all about equality, people! Offer to split the bill. It’s the nice thing to do. 

Not accepting last minute plans
Let’s say a guy calls you after work hours and asks if you’re up for a drink. Earlier this meant that you were probably his plan B if plan A fell through. And if you accepted, you were desperate. Why not  look at this in a different (and a simpler) way? Maybe he was thinking about you and didn’t want to wait the estimated time before making plans with you.  And you accepting just means that you like his company too. Phew. This makes things less complex now, right?


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