#datingadvice | BDSM 101: How Real People Bring Bondage Into The Bedroom


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When I first started exploring BDSM, I was a bit nervous about the whole idea.

So nervous, in fact, that I never brought it up to anyone I dated before getting married (I’m divorced now).

My wife and I never talked about it, either, while we were married (though we did practice a little bit of BDSM without actually acknowledging it).

Probably just like you, I was always pretty curious.

But, as much as you may want to, it’s not as easy as cuffing your partner to the bedpost and breaking out the whip.

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That could be bad in many, many (many!) ways.

Approached correctly, however, kinking it up a notch can take your relationship to a whole new level.

Let’s talk about how to get started.

 

Isn’t “Kink” Something You Get in Your Neck?

Maybe you’ve never really thought about exploring “kink.”

You think a little spanking could be fun, but you haven’t actually tried it.

But did you know spanking is actually considered “kink”?

Kink is broad term that includes BDSM — bondage, dominance and submission, discipline, and sadomasochism.

And yes, spanking is considered BDSM…along with any number of other erotic activities, ranging from role-playing to dressing up like friendly, furry animals and rubbing each other vigorously.

The problem is that if you and your partner move along too quickly or are not communicating correctly, you could hurt each other, both physically and emotionally.

Even the most violent-seeming aspects of kink are not really violent.

They may cause a lot of consensual pain, but all activities, if done correctly, are under control at all times — and can be good for you!

Sound kinda hot? Let’s move on.

 

Kink Is Good For You!

A recent study in the journal Psychology of Consciousness: Theory, Research, and Practice linked BDSM to a higher state of “flow,” which can increase your ability to focus and improve your creativity.

Flow is a psychological state described as:

a finely tuned sense of rhythm… anticipation… a state of intense emotional involvement and timelessness that comes from immersive and challenging activities.”

As it happens, BDSM activities are “immersive and challenging” enough to trigger “flow” in research subjects.

Activities that have certain rules or parameters, which is key to BDSM play, also trigger flow states.

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So with established rules, BDSM becomes a flow-generating activity. Pretty cool, huh?

In addition to the individual flow benefits that BDSM offers, studies report that kink of all sorts improves relationships and increases couples’ reported levels of sexual satisfaction.

Young couples who add variety to their sex lives form stronger bedroom bonds…

And older couples who kink up their sex feel more connected and more satisfied in their relationships.

Now you know what kink is and that is has benefits. So how do you actually start using it?

 

Why You Should Figure Out What You Want Before Jumping in Head-First

Before you even consider asking your partner to help satisfy a sexual desire, you’ve got to know what that desire is.

Sitting at the bar and saying, “Do something kinky to me” is not likely to lead to much satisfaction. For either of you.

So step 1: Get specific.

Do you want to dress as a pirate and ravish your wench on a boat, bending her over the ship’s wheel and flipping the skirts of her costume up over her head?

Or perhaps you want her to wear a Carnivale mask, put a spiked collar on you, and walk you around on all fours like her pet.

How do you want it to feel?

Are you trying for romantic adventure?

Do you want to be debased and abused?

They’re your desires, so really think about this question.

Whatever they may be, get them down to the details.

Once you can articulate what it is you’d like your partner to explore with you, it’s time to start talking.

And here’s how:

 

The #1 Key to Successfully Bringing BDSM Into Your Bedroom

When you’re ready to talk to your partner about stepping up the kink in your relationship, the first thing to do is have a conversation about it.

Whether it’s at a fancy restaurant, a local dive, or your front porch, make a date to have this conversation.

As excited as you may be about the prospect, it’s important to go into the conversation with an open mind.

You need to be ready to hear that your girl is simply a “vanilla” — a person whose sexual tastes don’t include kink.

On the other hand, you also must be prepared to explore her sexual desires, even if you may find them disturbing.

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Kink only works with two, open-minded, consenting adults.

Anything short of that is simply one partner humoring the other. (And there’s no fun in a one-sided sexual relationship.)

While compromise is an important part of a relationship, it can be unfulfilling when it comes to mutual sexual exploration.

You’ve both got to be on the same page.

So start simple.

Once you and your partner decide to try a little kink, don’t dive into your deepest desires right away.

Begin slowly, and only try one new experience at a time.

Trying too much too soon is a rookie mistake (trust me, I’ve been there).

You’ve got to elevate your comfort levels gradually so that you and your partner are both ready when it comes time to take it to the next level.

And as you gradually progress, you’ll most likely learn new things about your partner… and about yourself.

But if you really want to take it to the next level, and give her the sexual satisfaction she craves… then you’ve gotta try this:

A BDSM Introduction for Curious Men

That Time I Had Sex With the Receptionist at the Office Christmas Party…

It was my company’s annual Christmas party… and I was ready to go home with Emma, the receptionist.

Though as an older guy, I was a little worried about my “performance”… how could I show my face Monday morning after a night of “whiskey d–k”?

Some guys might pop a Viagra if they were in my shoes… but I didn’t want to take any “prescriptions”… I wanted to go all natural.

Then I got an idea…

It’s this cool little “exercise” a buddy of mine showed me… he’s in his 50s, and he uses it to get hard, nearly on command. (And it helps him stay hard for hours, too.)

To be honest, I wasn’t sure if it would work when I took Emma home… though a few seconds after I did the “exercise,” sure enough — I was ready.

(And when Emma got on top of me for round 2, 5 minutes after I finished? I was still hard. You might even call it a “Christmas Miracle.”)

You can check out the “exercise” here — man, you’re gonna love this:

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Roleplaying 101: Doms, Subs, & More…

Here are some roles to think about when you’re trying to figure out where you fall on BDSM dating spectrum:

 Dominants — Also called doms or tops (as in on top). A dom can’t really be a dom without a sub (submissive). The dom is the one who directs and controls the sub. Some examples of dominant roles, include:

2) Master/Mistress — A Master or Mistress will expect varying degrees of compliance from their sub, and some may treat them as an object that is ignored unless needed, or want their sub “trained” to anticipate their needs.

3) Daddy/Mommy — A Daddy or Mommy Dominant has nothing to do with incest fantasies or anyone underage; it is simply a classification of Dom that is nurturing and affectionate to their “Little” who may act out childishly.

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4) FemDom — Always a woman, the FemDom can have a male or female sub, but will assume traditionally “male” gender roles, whether 24/7 or only during sexual play. This role may involve humiliating a male partner who is “forced” into feminine roles.

5) Submissives — As you’ve likely surmised, the sub or bottom is the kink partner who submits to and follows the orders and directions of a dom. Some examples of submissive roles include:

6) Slave — When a sub is a slave, they give over their own will entirely to their Master. It’s a more encompassing, more entire form of submission, in which the sub doesn’t set their own limits–their boundaries are set for them by their master or mistress. They act as though “owned” by their master and may or may not be masochists, but collars are quite common in M/S play.

7) Pet — In pet play, the sub is a pet ― often a pony, puppy or kitty ― and the dom is the master. Pet play may involve costumes and accessories like tails, cages, collars or leashes, but it will vary in terms of what the sub gets out of it. Some pets enjoy the aspects of dehumanization and exhibitionism, while others enjoy letting loose and relaxing while their “master” strokes or pets them. No actual animals are harmed during pet play (that’s bestiality and it’s illegal in most states).

8) Little — A little is an adult who adopts a role that is similar to a pet, in that they look to their Dom for protection and care–however, rather than assuming a role related to an animal, it tends to revolve around human age play. This power dynamic is often non-sexual, but can involve a lot of dressing up and “childish” activities, as well as being spoiled and punished by their mommy or
daddy dom.

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What To Do If You Want to Experiment With Multiple BDSM Roles…

Obviously, when you’re role-playing, the world is your oyster (a kinky oyster) and you can be anything you want. But there are other roles in kinky/BDSM sex that are predefined, and it will help your partner — or potential partner — if you know what kind of role you prefer to play.

Deciding at the outset that you want to be in one role doesn’t mean that you can’t change your mind and trade off later. You both just have to communicate, consent, and understand that it’s happening. I mean, if you both suddenly decided to be subs without talking about it, the two of you would just lie there waiting for something to happen.

Take me, for example. I am a solid dom (dominant or “top”). As I mentioned before, I happened onto my love of rough sex accidentally. I was vanilla and enjoyed it for years.

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Despite having some low-key rough-sex fantasies, I never asked any of my sexual partners or my wife about it. It wasn’t until after my divorce, during sex with one of my first post-marriage partners, that I figured out how intense it can be. She was on top of me, and I could tell from her face and the way she was moving that she was on the verge of coming.

She said, “Spank me.” I was startled and was like,“Umm…what?” Nobody had ever ordered me to spank them before.

“Spank me! Right now!” So I did. “Harder!” (an order she repeated several times).

At the edge of orgasm, she begged me to pinch her nipple, ordering me to squeeze harder, and harder — beyond a point where I felt comfortable, as I have pretty awesome grip strength — but I did. And she exploded, and then I did, too.

We kept at it all night long: spanking, pulling, tugging, biting, f–king, and coming. I was hooked.

I was lucky in my first BDSM sex experience: A dom told me what to do. But as a natural dom, I had no problem with being the one who gives the spanking. We worked out the logistics on the fly, and several years later, she is still my favorite partner. (I love when she visits!)

As my experience illustrates, in rough sex, the dom does not always have to be the deliverer. The top often tells the bottom what he should do to her. Communication is not only necessary, it’s fun and makes for a better overall experience.

Even so, the dom is strong in this one.

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The “Spanking And…” Conversation That Safely & Consensually Tests Her Sexual Limits (And Yours)

After that first BDSM dating experience, I now have the “spanking and…” conversation with just about every woman I sleep with.

Unsurprisingly, not everyone is into it… and that’s fine. Vanilla sex is still awesome; but rough sex with the right partner can be even more awesome.

If your partner is not into it, or you need to find a partner to play with you, the internet — you’re shocked, I know — offers plenty of opportunities where you can meet like-minded kinky partners.

There are plenty of BDSM sites out there. Mobile users, of course, can use tools like the Fetlife app to meet a dom for their sub, or vice versa. (But more on that in a bit.)

But, even if you’ve vetted somebody on a kink/BDSM site or the Fetlife app, you need to use some restraint.

When you’re playing rough with or spanking a new partner — or if you’re both trying it for first time — you’ve got to take it slow. And always check in: “Is this okay? How about this?”

There are several benefits of starting slowly.

Not only do you figure out the point where rough play is most pleasurable, but you also get stimulated from the gentle build-up. In addition, by slowly increasing the intensity, you build up tolerance over time — and that means you can eventually take the kink or BDSM even further.

(Note: When you’re just getting started, these 3 rough sex moves are usually best to start with. Click here to check them out.)

 

It Doesn’t End There…

When you’re on the receiving end, be specific and give feedback. One partner likes me to slap her in the p–sy. The first time, I was way too gentle for her, even though she kept asking me to do it harder.

We talked about it afterward, and with some tweaks in the technique and live feedback, I spanked her labia until she came. I slapped her much, much harder than I ever would’ve imagined a sensitive area like that could take. But she took it and loved it — so who am I to judge?

In a similar situation, my partner was warming me up with her hand during foreplay. Something she was doing was just right, and I asked her to keep going with her hand. But it was also just wrong: I needed her to do it harder and with more contact to my balls.

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It’s not that I always like to be punched in my balls while getting jerked off, but in that moment, it’s what I wanted. I kept asking her to do it harder, but she kept holding back because she didn’t want to hurt me. Eventually, she got there (and so did I).

Clearly, our own inhibitions can get in the way of pleasure — especially when it comes to kink or BDSM. You have to trust your partner to tell you when enough is enough or when they need more.

But you also can’t just turn things up and go immediately from 1 to 11, either. When it comes to kink, you need a combination of check-ins, feedback, and gradually-increasing intensity.

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3 Steps to Introduce BDSM Into Your Bedroom for the First Time…

Once you and your partner get to know each other’s kinks a little better, you may be able to start at a more advanced level of intensity. But don’t forget that the buildup can intensify the pleasure. And that’s what kink is all about.

Here are 3 steps to ease into experimenting with BDSM for maximum pleasure with any woman:

1) Communicate

When you’re ready to talk to your partner about stepping up the kink in your relationship, the first thing to do is block off some specific time. Whether it’s at a fancy restaurant, a local dive, or your front porch, make the date about the conversation.

As excited as you may be about the prospect, you must go into the conversation with an open mind. You need to be ready to hear that your partner is simply a “vanilla” — a person whose sexual tastes don’t include kink. On the other hand, you also must be prepared to explore her sexual desires, as well, even if they make you squirm.

Kink only works with two open-minded, consenting adults. When it comes to BDSM dating, consent is the most important — and sexiest thing about the relationship.

Anything short of that is simply one partner humoring the other. While compromise is an important part of a relationship, it can be unfulfilling when it comes to mutual sexual exploration.

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2) Make Sure You’re on the Same Page

Start simple. Once you and your partner decide to try a little kink, don’t dive into your deepest desires right away. Begin slowly, and only try one new experience at a time.

Trying too much too soon is a rookie mistake. You’ve got to elevate your comfort levels gradually so that you and your partner are both ready when it comes time to take it to the next level. But, when you get there, you’ll be happy you took the leap.

Getting started with kink doesn’t have to be complicated. You don’t need the latest in ball gag technology. The only things you really need are consent and some boundaries.

The most important thing to remember when you start playing around with kink is that it’s based on pleasure. It’s not violence or punishment in the real-world sense. In the bedroom, or wherever, the only reason for rough sex is to make you both feel good.

 

3) Set Boundaries

And when it doesn’t feel good, you have to stop. Consent is the most important component of kink and BDSM. If you don’t have it, you can’t do it.

Another important component is a safe word. If you’re just experimenting with kink like rough sex, spanking or nipple play, you may not need a safe word: “No” and “Stop” should work just fine.

Just make sure you both know when enough is enough. Going beyond the stopping point is violence, and harming one another is definitely not the point of kink.

On the other hand, the deeper you get into roles and fantasies, the more important a safe word becomes. If you are enacting a rape scenario, “No” is not going to work as a safe word.

Communicate. Be open. Set boundaries.

What you’re trying to do is create a more intense erotic (emotional and physical) experience. The intensity of the feelings creates a bonding experience and can help make your relationship stronger.

In some cases, kink does not even involve sex. Many practitioners find the stimulation from a kinky act, say spanking, intense enough that it doesn’t even have to be paired with sex. You and your partner need to figure out what works right for you.

When you’re talking with your partner, you both have to be clear about what you want to do and what you don’t want to do. Do you want to spank, be spanked, both? Will this happen before, during or after sex — or is sex even involved?

 

The #1 Move to Ease a Woman Into BDSM (No Talking Necessary)…

If you’re the kind of guy who doesn’t like much talking before sex… or you’d like to ease a “vanilla” girl into BDSM, without having some long conversation about it…

… then I’d like to introduce you the 5-Finger “Tantra Technique.”

It’s a somewhat “safe” BDSM move that you can use during foreplay, to give a woman multiple stacked, addictive orgasms… and to get her to truly let loose with you in the bedroom…

Here’s how it’s done:

When you’re kissing her, slide your hand down her panties and finger her like normal for a bit (until she’s pretty wet).

Then, after about 30-45 seconds, do this with your middle, ring, and pinky fingers… while you do THIS with your thumb and pointer finger.

It may not feel super “kinky” for you at first…

…though the combination of pressure and pulsing *down there* is usually enough to give her multiple stacked orgasms, that she begs you for more of every time she sees you.

(Note: Whenever I’m feeling really dominant with a girl, I like to make her get down on her knees and literally beg me for this move. So try that out if you want to have some fun.)

Here’s a short video demonstration of the 5-Finger “Tantra Technique” by its creator, Lawrence Lanoff (opens in a new tab):

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6 Kink & BDSM Online Resources to Find Women Who Want To Experiment…

If you don’t have a partner, you’ll need to explore some BDSM sites or mobile tools like the Fetlife app to find one. These are some resources that will help you find a partner and communicate with them, using the same kink/BDSM language.

Kink/BDSM apps and sites:

1) Kinkd: Kinkd is a dating app for people who are into the fetish side of kink.

2) KNKI: KNKI is a dating app that is designed to appeal to the BDSM community, although folks into fetishes, poly and other kinds of kink will also find a home here.

3) Whiplr: Whiplr was one of the first and is among the largest mobile communities for people interested in all aspects of kink.

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4) Kinkstr: Kinkstr bills itself as a “sex positive” dating community for kinksters. The app allows you to match with others based on shared kinks.

5) Fetlife: Fetlife is a social networking site for folks who are interested in BDSM, fetishism and kink, in general. The site compares itself to Facebook — except for kinksters.

6) Collarspace: Collarspace bills itself as the planet’s largest BDSM community. It’s an online space where you can meet and chat with others who are into the BDSM lifestyle.

For some examples of proven messages to send these women you meet online, click here.

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The BDSM Dictionary: How To Speak the Language Of Kink Like A Pro…

Here are some more BDSM & kinky terms that will help you explore the world of rough sex without coming off as a total beginner:

1) Aftercare – a period of time after play during which players take a break and
check in with each other/re-establish connections.

2) Bondage – Restraint or restriction of a subject, often used to refer to a
preference (ie, “I like bondage”). Can include rope bondage, suspension
bondage, leather bondage, furniture and device bondage, and predicament
bondage.

3) Collar/Collaring – Usually represents someone’s identity as a submissive and/
or owned person, a collar can be imbued with whatever meaning by the
wearer, or none at all, although it often carries some symbolic weight.

4) Dom(me) – A role identifying a person as dominant; to be on the controlling
and decision-making side of power exchange.

5) Fetlife – The Fetlife app and website is kink’s equivalent of
Facebook, where you can post pictures, a status, writing, finding local
groups, making friends, and organizing events.

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6) Floggers/Flogging – Common BDSM toys and practice, floggers are multi-
tailed whips. The tails can be made from various materials, such as leather,
suede, or hair, often with wood or synthetic handles wrapped in the material of
choice. Flogging can produce a sensation that’s anywhere from sharp sting to
heavy thud, or any combination of the two.

7) Shibari – traditional Japanese rope bondage, Shibari is more aesthetically
specific than western bondage that uses a series ropes of designated
lengths and diameters.

8) Submissive – One who gives, relents, or doesn’t have power.

9) Vanilla – A word first used to describe non-kink oriented sex.

10) Wax Play – play involving dripping hot wax on the skin. Different waxes can
be used, although many burn at different temperatures, and good research
beforehand is highly recommended.

 

The BDSM Bottom Line…

When it comes to kink, you can pretty much be anything you want, as long as you and your partner(s) are on the same page about what you’re doing and what the expectations are.

Ultimately, though, if you want to start experimenting with BDSM… it’s important to be prepared.

Have a safe word and know your limits… including your physical limits.

Me, for example, I’m 49 years old. I’m no spring chicken, and I don’t have nearly as much energy as I used to.

So whenever I have a date with a girl who I think might be into BDSM, or kinky marathon sex… I always eat this “Sex Snack” beforehand.

It’s a combination of 5 simple ingredients, that work to boost bloodflow, so I perform at my best…

… and so I can “keep up” with these hot, younger women who love being spanked, choked, and tied up into mindblowing orgasms.

Here’s a short video that shows you the recipe and how it works–man, I hope you like it as much as I do:

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5 Surprising Long-Term Benefits of Having Kinky Sex

 

1) It Increases Creativity

A study from last year reports that folks who practice kink — especially doms, or tops — experience “flow” more often than the average Joe.

And more flow means better focus and greater creativity. But what exactly is “flow”?

Flow is a psychological concept developed by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, a professor at Claremont Graduate University.

In an interview with Wired magazine, Csikszentmihalyi said flow is:

A finely tuned sense of rhythm… anticipation… a state of intense emotional involvement and timelessness that comes from immersive and challenging activities.”

Kink, as it happens, was “immersive and challenging” enough to trigger flow in research subjects.

For an activity to be flow-friendly, it must have certain rules or parameters, which are crucial in BDSM play.

With its rules, time limits, roles, safe words, etc., BDSM is a flow-generating activity, especially for doms/tops.

According to Csikszentmihalyi:

The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one…. Your whole being is involved.”

Teresa Amiable, a Harvard researcher, says that experiencing a flow state on one day boosts levels of focus and creativity the following day.

According to a Psychology Today article about Amiable’s work:

Flow doesn’t just heighten creativity in the moment, it heightens it over the long haul. In other words, being in flow actually trains us to be more creative.”

Get kinky, get focused, and get creative. Which brings me to the next long-term benefit…

 

2) It Improves Your Communication Skills

If you’ve been following along at home, I’ve written a few of these kink articles lately, and in every one, I pounded the communication drum pretty loudly.

Guess what, though? All that communicating paid off!

For a kinky relationship to take off, you have to be transparent and communicate.

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If you don’t, especially in some BDSM scenarios, things will work out poorly.

Talking with a partner about extremely personal wants and desires, while interacting to set out clear parameters, rules, or safe words is communication on a deep level.

When you practice kink, you become a better communicator with both your partner(s) and in life.

 

3) It Makes Your Relationships More Satisfying

Several studies have shown that long-term couples who occasionally get kinky — even older couples (50s+) — get along better with each other.

They are also more likely to be satisfied with their sex lives than couples that don’t mix it up in the bedroom.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that you have to strap on the leather and polish your handcuffs every night.

Adding a little surprise to your routine, though, keeps both of you interested, engaged, and sexually satisfied.

In addition to sexual satisfaction, kinky couples usually enjoy greater levels of intimacy than their vanilla counterparts.

Some of it is due to the risks — both emotional and physical — that kink involves.

Heightened communication and getting to know one another on a deeper level, though, are the main factors that lead to increased feelings of intimacy.

After all, you’ve got to feel pretty comfortable with someone before you let her handcuff you to the bed, right?

These greater levels of satisfaction, intimacy, and communication, not surprisingly, also prevent cheating.

The trust that’s necessary within a kinky relationship strengthens the bonds between partners.

 

4) It Increases Your Overall Well-Being

A 2013 study linked kink to a better overall sense of well-being. In the study, kinky subjects were found to be less neurotic, more secure, and more open than vanilla subjects.

Much of this can be attributed to a combination of the trust that kink builds, and the neurotransmitters that kink releases.

Having kinky sex on the regular helps to build a general sense of tranquility, confidence, and motivation.

On top of that, a 2009 study linked kinky practices with lower cortisol levels. Cortisol is often called the “stress hormone.”

Guys who practice kink, even if they’re subs/bottoms, are less stressed and report less anxiety than vanilla dudes.

The reduced anxiety is likely a combination of the serotonin/dopamine release and coming down from the intensity of the peak kinky experience.

Plus, the lack of judgment and expectation inherent in kink also contributes to lower stress.

Research from 2014 suggests that engaging in S&M changes blood flow to the brain, causing a state of consciousness like those experienced by people who do yoga (similar to a runner’s high).

This lowers sensations of pain, and increases feelings of tranquility.

So, if you’re harboring some kinky fantasies, the reasons for exploring them far outweigh any reason to resist.

Talk to a partner. If you like it, make sure it’s more than an “experiment.”

The benefits of routine kink are many. Kink can enhance your sex life, build your relationship, and make you a happier, healthier, more creative guy.

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5) It Makes Your Orgasms More Intense (& Hers Too)

It’s true — having kinky sex can make your orgasms feel way, way, WAY better.

Why?

It’s science, baby!

When you’re inside her, you can use this simple, easy-to-repeat technique, discovered by a tantric sex master… it targets her “Orgasmic Pleasure Center”… which is a walnut-sized area juuuuust left of her G-spot…

And usually, after a few minutes… it builds up into a very X-rated release, for both you and the woman you’re with…

(Which means she’ll beg you for round two in no time flat). ?

Here’s a video that shows you how to do it–man, you’re gonna love this:

Discover the Simple Technique to Give You (& Her) More Intense Orgasms Than You’ve Probably Ever Experienced…

 

How To Get Her Sexually “Hooked” on You (Whether She’s Kinky or “Vanilla”)…

Did you know that there are 3 different types of powerful orgasms that a woman can have?

And in my experience, the easiest way to get a girl sexually “addicted” to you is to give her one of these orgasms.

Each one targets a different part of her with a simple, repeatable touch… and concentrates pleasure there… building it up until it overflows and gushes out of her in a powerful, toe-curling climax.

Few guys know how to give a woman even one of these orgasms…
…but the guys who can master all 3?

They’re the ones who seem to always keep a girl as a happy, long-term girlfriend… or even a bunch of girls around for some casual fun (since women seem to always stick around them). ?

Just click the orgasm you want to know more about below:

1) How to Give Her Powerful Clitoral Orgasms…
2) How to Manipulate Her G-Spot to Give Her a “Screaming” G-Spot Orgasm…
3) How to Hit Her Secret “Deep Spot” and Give Her Pleasure She’s Never Felt Before…

P.S. I think this one’s my personal favorite… would you try this?

[Note: This post was updated by Gotham Club on October 5, 2019.]
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