Online dating can be fun and exciting. It can also be overwhelming and frustrating. It all comes down to who you’re matching with. These tips can help you match with the right people so you have more fun and less frustration.
Look For Someone Who Makes It Convenient For You
It’s not all about you, but look for someone who is more willing to go the extra mile for you rather than expecting you to do it for them. The occasional scheduling conflict or out-of-the-way location is normal, but you want to find someone who makes it as convenient and easy for you as possible. Whether it’s being flexible with the time or choosing a coffee shop near your apartment or work so you can get there easily, if they’re willing to work with your needs, it’s a good sign.
Stop Looking For Your “type”
Everyone has a type. It might be about height, eye color, muscles, or a combination of things. It might not even by physical but about personality or education or career. Whatever your “type” is, toss it away. Explore dating those who are the total opposite of your type, or at least aren’t a dead-ringer for who you’d usually date. When you can let go of “this is what I like and want” and be open to whatever is out there, you’ll meet many more people and have a better chance of finding true love.
Recognize When You’re Being Set Up
Have you ever had a date challenge you with something like, “I bet you’re a good girl who has never…” or “I bet you would never…”? These are a setup. They’re trying to make you prove yourself and that should be a red flag. You don’t need to prove yourself to anyone – especially if their challenge is something dangerous or illegal. Learn to recognize when someone is setting you up by challenging you to prove yourself and walk away when it happens.
Know What You Want
The best way to find a relationship when using online dating is by knowing what you want. Otherwise, it’s like going grocery shopping without knowing what you like to eat. Take some time to write down a few things that are important to you in a partner and in a relationship. Keep those things in mind as you create your profile. Even if the exact things you wrote down don’t make it in, you’ll be keeping them in mind as you read others’ profiles and be more likely to skip over those that don’t come up to standard.
Make Sure Your Profile Mirrors What You Want
You want to create a profile that mirrors what you want so it attracts what you want. If you’re looking for fun and laughs, it should be witty and funny. If you’re seeking adventure, it should reflect that. If you’re looking for intellectual connection, it should show that. This means investing a little extra time in writing your profile, but in the end, it’s one that weeds out a lot of the people you don’t want. And that saves you time.
Give Yourself Some Clear Limits
It’s easy to get overwhelmed and start dating way more people than you can comfortably handle. So before you even begin, set some clear limits. Decide how many people you’ll date at one time. When you meet that limit, disable your profile temporarily. If you feel overwhelmed and want to stop, it’s okay to take a break from online dating. Disable your profile and give yourself a few weeks before you go back.
Pay Attention To Love Signals
It is important to read a guy while dating. Many times women will look for what they want to see rather than really pay attention to the signals that a guy gives off. Look closely for signs that he is not interested or pay attention to the topics he wants to discuss while on dates. Most importantly, pay attention to the signs that he is falling in love.
Reach Out To The Guy With “normal” Photos
Part of dating and relationships is physical attraction. But when you’re scrolling and swiping, consider the ones with the “normal” photos rather than the ones that look like they could be on a magazine cover. Pay attention to the body language that you are using in your pics. If the bio is as normal as the photos, and both appeal to you, there’s a great chance of compatibility. The ones who work so hard to come up with cover-worthy photos and a bio that claims to work out all the time or be on an adventure constantly might be just as great, but they’re investing a lot more effort into that first impression instead of being real for everything that comes after.
Perhaps the most important thing you can do is be safe and trust your intuition. Online dating can be a great way to find true love, as long as you know what you’re doing.