When dating apps first started to become popular, I was in a longterm relationship. I’ll admit, I was a bit curious as to what was out there. But the overwhelming guilt I felt for just being curious was enough to prevent me from downloading it. There was even a time where an ex dumped me, but we were in the tricky situation where we were still hooking up, I drunkenly downloaded Tinder — and then deleted it after two left swipes because of the soul-crushing guilt. So, this story of a guy’s spouse is totally suspicious to me (that’s right, THEY’RE MARRIED, making this a thousand times worse).
Hi all. This is my first Reddit post, normally I lurk in other subs. Today, while out for her birthday, my spouse opened her phone and a photo of a guy looking very ‘dating app’ posed. I asked her about it, and she told me that she had been using Bumble for its BFF portion. When we got home, we discussed it and she fessed up that she had ‘switched’ it from BFF only to looking at guys because she was curious, but felt horrible and switched back. She has no idea why it would have come up, or why it came up with a man’s pic.
If you were led here because you Googled “how to use Bumble without getting caught,” I’m sorry to tell you, you jerk, this is not the way. He continued, She showed me her profile, which stated that she was looking for men. I don’t use Bumble. I’m (obviously) really confused about all of this. I wanted to see if some Bumble pro’s could help walk me through this to know whether her version of this makes sense or not. TLDR: Spouse accidentally opens phone to pic of other man. On Bumble. Claims BFF only, switched once out of curiosity but then switched back. Profile was blank, but stated she was looking for men. Does this all add up?
Honey, no. That is some sneaky shit. If I can offer any comfort, it’s this: There is a BFF feature on Bumble where people try to find friends. Personally, I wouldn’t use a dating app for this, but I did date a girl in my youth who was so lonely she put out a Craigslist ad for friends. But she showed me exactly what the ad said and everyone who replied to avoid my JEALOUS RAGE. (JK, I would probably just cry or something.) Your spouse didn’t tell you about Bumble for a reason. She wasn’t open with you about “wanting to find friends” through the app.
Bumble, which some people call the “Feminist Tinder,” only allows women to message men first. So maybe she is just looking, but I don’t trust that hoe.