Zach then asked why she never messaged back, and said he’d been trying to get a hold of her. When Marie said she’d met someone else, he reportedly accused her of lying.
Her account of the creepy and inappropriate exchange racked up thousands of likes and shares on Facebook, and Marie updated the post revealing she had spoken to a former homicide/sex crimes detective that now works in stalking and harassment.
The sergeant called Zach and reportedly had a “50 minute conversation” with him about “why what he did was not OK”.
“Zach explained how he found me. He used the Tinder distance locater to narrow down the salons near him,” Marie added.
“He looked at [the website of] each salon near him. Our salon website happens to have bios and pics of our stylists.”
It’s a chilling reminder to many dating app users that even the smallest amount of personal information can be used for less than salubrious means.
The post racked up over 17,000 comments, mostly of support for the woman and her choice to take it up with the police.
“The fact that you shared this might give other women the courage to defend themselves. Your story might encourage men to behave better,” wrote one person.
“Glad you finally got some justice! I hope you do file. It will be easier for other women to file in the future!” wrote another.
“I’m so glad someone listened to you. It’s scary to be a woman,” wrote another.
Kiwi online safety website Netsafe has several guidelines for staying safe online while using dating apps.
“It’s important that you never give out any personal information publicly and that you’re careful not to give out too much information too soon to someone you’ve recently met through an online dating app or website,” the site explains.
“Information that you should be careful to protect includes your full name, your place of work, your address, your phone number, whether you have children, email address, credit card details or other financial information.
“Where possible don’t allow location sharing on a dating app and don’t share any photos or videos that carry location information.”