Romance Scams Cost $281M, FBI Warns As Valentine’s Day Nears | #datingscams | #lovescams | #facebookscams


ACROSS AMERICA — Romance scams cost trusting Americans $281 million last year, and these schemes promising love and affection are on the uptick again as Valentine’s Day nears, the FBI is warning.

People of all ages are victimized, the FBI said, but older women are most often targeted in confidence scams using a romantic relationship to swindle them out of their money, personal and financial information.

The romance scam may play on the loneliness of older Americans, according to the AARP, whose research shows a common theme among people targeted in romance scams had recently experienced a negative event, whether the loss of a spouse or job, or a financial setback. Swindlers get that information by scanning obituaries, online and offline documents, or even by going through people’s trash.

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Skepticism is healthy before entering into an online relationship, the FBI said. Some red flags:

  • After initial contact on a legitimate dating site, the person attempts to communicate by email or messaging services.
  • The person claims to be from the United States, but lives or is traveling abroad.
  • The person claims the relationship is “destiny” or “fate.”
  • The person reports a person crisis and exerts pressure for financial help.
  • The person disappears suddenly, then reappears under a different name.
  • The person asks for money, goods or money before an in-person meeting.

Some tips to protect yourself:

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  • Never send money or wire transfers to someone you meet online.
  • Never share banking or credit card information with anyone shoes identity you haven’t verified.
  • Never share your Social Security number or other personally identifiable information with anyone who doesn’t need that information for legitimate reasons.
  • Be mindful of what you post on social media posts and your general online presence. Scammers can use details shared on social media and dating sites to better understand and target you.
  • Research the person’s photo and profile using online searches to see if the image, name or details have been used elsewhere.
  • Go slowly and ask the other person lots of questions.

Americans’ growing comfort with online platforms has opened new avenues for chiselers, experts say.

“More and more Americans are generally more comfortable meeting online for platonic and romantic relationships, and these scams are following them, whether its apps or social media sending them friend requests or instant messages on Facebook saying,’I’m in love with you’ and then asking for money,” Kathy Stokes, the director of AARP’s Fraud Prevention Program, told Patch in 2019 for a story about scams targeting older Americans.

Making it worse, many people, especially those who are older, are reluctant to admit they’ve been scammed for fear they’ll be seen as naive or incompetent.

“For people who are relatively well-educated and think they’re savvy, it’s very demoralizing and shameful to admit they fell for something,” Stokes said in the 2019 interview. “We as a society blame victims of scams in a way we don’t blame other crime victims. We need to flip the narrative — ‘this happened to me and I’m empowered to tell my story so others won’t feel the same embarrassment.’ “

Anyone who believes they’re the victim of the romance scam should report the activity to the Internet Crime Complaint Center. Also, the FBI said, one of the first calls people who have been swindled should make is to their banks, credit unions and credit card companies. They should also report it to the website or application where contact began.

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