Most parents don’t realize how much their children drink: Researchshows that only 10% of parents think their teens drink, yet 52% of teens admit to drinking alcohol. But parents admit that other people’s kids drink. The same study showed that parents estimated that 60% of 10th graders drink.
As Christian parents, we need to remember the harsh reality that our children are not immune to the vices of this world, and alcohol is a frequent culprit. Alcohol is the substance most frequently abused by teens, and its use leads to the most injuries and deaths from accidents, homicides and suicides among teens.
I live this reality as a pediatrician in the emergency room. Here’s what I see:
A 15 year-old stumbled into my ER at 2 a.m., barely conscious, supported by his terrified mother. He was out with friends, dropped off at home, seemed tired and went to bed. The mom of one of his friends just called, and her son is in another ER unconscious, poisoned by something someone allegedly slipped into his drink. “They must have done the same thing to him,” my patient’s mother tells me.
I attach monitors, start oxygen, hang IV fluids and draw a “coma panel”—a myriad of tests meant to pick out what toxic substance could have poisoned this patient. I didn’t have to wait long for the answer…
Alcohol. No date rape drugs, no heroin, just alcohol. All the other tests came back negative, and the patient slowly woke up and went home to shake off a really bad hangover. Apparently the patient’s friend in the other ER had only alcohol in his blood, too.
The saddest part was the mom, who wouldn’t believe me. “Isn’t there something else wrong with him?” she asked me. “He swears he didn’t drink anything.” I struggled to think of a gentle reply, but I couldn’t find words. Finally, I sighed and said, “I don’t know how you get a blood alcohol level that high without drinking.”
It’s our kids that drink, not other people’s. Yes, even well-raised children from strong families.
Here’s the kicker: 80% of teens say their parents are the biggest influence on their decision to drink. You are the strongest force to protect your children from alcohol abuse. Even if you think your kids don’t care what you have to say… they really do. The best solution for underage drinking is to talk to our kids, and talk early. Research shows children start to think positively about alcohol around age 9-13.
That’s right— just said you should talk to your 9-year-old about alcohol. I have. Have you?
So what’s wrong with an occasional drink, especially if teens drink responsibly? Here’s what the data says:
The younger you start, the more likely you are do have an adult drinking problem: Adults age 21 or older who started using alcohol before age 15 were almost 6 times as likely to have alcohol dependence or abuse than adults who first used alcohol at age 21 or older (15.1 percent vs. 2.6 percent), according to SAMHSA’s 2008 National Survey on Drug Use and Health (NSDUH).
Drinking isn’t good for your grades: About 25 percent of college students report academic consequences of their drinking including missing class, falling behind, doing poorly on exams or papers, and receiving lower grades overall, according to a 2002 study by The Harvard School of Public Health by Wechsler et al.
Unsafe sex and rape usually happens after drinking: 97,000 students between the ages of 18 and 24 are victims of alcohol-related sexual assault or date rape. 400,000 students between the ages of 18 and 24 had unprotected sex and more than 100,000 students between the ages of 18 and 24 report having been too intoxicated to know if they consented to having sex (Hingson et al., 2009).