How can there be so many men on Tinder and yet finding a nice boyfriend is so hard? It is a common dilemma.
Online dating continues to be a popular way to meet people, but it can be a marathon mission, full of disappointment and boredom.
The only way to stay sane is to mix it up by getting out and about and seeing men, in the flesh. But where to find them?
Here are nine ways to meet men that don’t involve online dating.
1. Attend a trendy singles event
Hipster-approved singles events are jumping out of the woodwork at a surprising rate.
Love baking and fancy meeting a fella in a warm tent? Join the cool cats at The Big London Bake event or go Speed Darting.
2. Have a hobby
I am yet to meet a woman who has met any men at a book club or art class.
It is a complete cliché, but having conducted extended research, I can tell you running clubs and British Military Fitness (BMF) classes are where the men are.
These clubs tend to be very sociable too, so go for a pint after your sweaty session and compare your personal bests on Strava, a social network for runners and cyclers.
3. Ceroc, salsa and swing
If you rolled up at a dance class 15 years ago it was chock-a-block with women, albeit the odd man curled up in the foetal position, who had clearly been dragged along.
But something very magical has happened.
Whether it is the effect of Strictly Come Dancing or just evolution making some rhythmic steps forward, men are dancing now.
Ceroc, salsa and swing are the current favourites.
4. Go wine tasting
No way, Jose would most of us approach someone up in a bar.
But at a wine tasting evening the lovely liquid is a prop, a shared interest, and a conversational lubricant.
‘Mmmm, this one’s yummy,’ is literally all you have to say to start a conversation.
5. Work it
OK, this is an obvious one, but do you really know everyone at work?
Don’t just chat to the men in your department. Become the unofficial social secretary for your company and organize pub sessions.
You may just discover your dreamboat has been sitting behind the photocopier all these years.
6. Head to an alumni event
Nearly all of us have someone dishy from our pasts who we regard as the one that got away.
Attend a school, work or university networking event and reignite your crush.
7. Go solo
Whether you want to chill out on a beach, brush up on your yoga or climb a mountain, there are plenty of holidays out there for solo holiday goers where you can meet some top-notch men.
8. Can you gig it?
There is something about a grubby yet creative space that loosens people up.
Pick a small-ish, intimate gig where you can chat music, spill your beer and swap festival anecdotes.
9. If all else fails, hang out in a bar
This is not everyone’s cup of tea, but a friend of mine who went on a date recently, was waiting for over an hour for the man to show up.
She had pulled out all the stops and was wearing a bright red dress.
She got chatted up by a truck-load of friendly, gorgeous guys and said she had never had this kind of attention before.
Men say it’s really intimidating to chat up a woman when they are with a group of people.
Without an army of people around her, she met loads of nice chaps.