A dating app meet up reportedly turns into rape in a southwest Oklahoma City apartment complex.
A metro man is accused of attacking a woman he met over the weekend after chatting on Tinder.
A first date gone horribly wrong. A woman told police she connected with 28 year old Ivan Kindlan on the dating app Tinder about a week ago. After talking through the app for 5 days the pair met at a southwest Oklahoma City bar for drinks Saturday night, according to the police report. The woman told officers Kindlan got drunk, and after the meeting he persuaded her to come inside and check out his new apartment.
“She said she tried to leave, he began assaulting her, forced her into a situation she didn’t want to be in and that was at the point where she was sexually assaulted,” said Msgt. Gary Knight with the Oklahoma City Police Department.
The woman told police Kindlan choked her and raped her. She later was able to put her clothes on and leave the apartment, she soon called police.
Reportedly when officers arrived at Kindlan’s apartment, there was another woman inside who was undressed.
“It’s just make sure you know who you’re dealing with before you go meet somebody alone or go to their residence alone. And that would apply to anybody dating, whether it’s a website or otherwise,” said Knight.
But Stacey Wright with Yes All Daughters rape awareness group says that advice is a subtle form of victim blaming. She says often times the rapist is someone the victim already knows, even for years.
But whether it’s a stranger or a familiar face, she says Oklahoma’s rape statistics are extremely high, and dating apps are just another way rapists can target their prey.
“We live in an online world now so this is obviously going to be one more place for a rapist to hunt for victims,” said Wright.
Kindlan was arrested on a complaint of first degree rape.