The following is an insert from the book,
Online Dating Scams
Online Dating Statistics 2012:
– “Both women and men tend to lie about their physical
appearance on online dating sites.
– The online dating industry has gone from a $900 million industry in 2007 to a $1.9 billion industry in 2012.
– Couples who meet online and later get married date for an average of 18.5 months before getting married
– married couples who met offline date for an average of 40 months before tying the knot.
– ZOOSK is the most popular online dating site with over 50 million visitors per month.
– Since 2006, about 17% of married couples have met by using an online dating site.”
Not to toot my own horn, but I have been talking and consulting on online dating scams since early 2008. Here are two great videos about online dating scams. One when I was on CBS and the other one on Ricki Lake Shows.
Online Dating Tips To Help Avoid Scams
1. Everyone on the Internet or in person shows you their representative. Online daters have an advantage of hiding behind a computer and making it seem like they are more than what they really are. Always trust your first instinct.
2. Always ask for a current picture. Today, every cell phone has a camera, so ask them to take a picture holding up two fingers, or a copy of today’s newspaper. Seems extreme, but if they are who they say they are they will.
3. If they say they are out of the country traveling at that time, it most likely a scam.
4. If they claim that they are traveling, have them Skype, Facetime, or Tango you, so you can see each other. If they give you any excuse, they are not who they say they are.
5. If they only want to talk to you over the phone or voice Skype (not video), listen for a foreign accent. So if their profile page says they are from Dallas,Texas, but their voice sounds like they are from Russia or Nigeria, it is a scam.
6. Set up an anonymous email that does not have your first name or last name associated with it. So no firstname.lastname@example.org. It should email@example.com. This way, a person cannot find out what your real name is before your tell them yourselves.
7. Do not use your home phone, cell phone or work phone number when you call the person for the first time. Either block your number or spoof your number. Spoofing meaning you can call them and have any number show up in the caller ID. So call them and put all 5s in the caller ID. It will look like this 555-555-555. Let them know that you will be calling them from this number. You can always give them your real number after you have built a relationship with them and you feel comfortable.
8. A MSNBC article found one third of the men dating online are married. A married person would have to call at her own convenience, scheduling it around her regular life. Notice if you always have to leave a message or if your partner only returns calls after long periods of time. If your partner always calls at exactly the same time, it may be she is calling from work during a break to avoid detection by a spouse.
9. If you become close to your date and he or she never introduces you to their friends or family, this is a warning sign that they may be involved with someone else.
10. Your date never wants to take you out in public, but always asks to come over to your place. They may want to go to the movie a lot, as well, where it is dark and always on your side of town.
11. They are not looking for love just to sell you products and services. This normally happens when you first create your account and start chatting with other members. They will ask you for your personal email, because “they do not check their dating account as much as they check their personal email.” If you give them your real email, you will be getting a lot of spam.
12. The most common, serious, and perhaps the most hurtful, the shakedown is an online dating scam usually run by someone overseas. The person pretends to get to know you and like you. At some point, he or she asks for money, because they were robbed overseas and their bank in the United States does not have a branch in the country where they are from. Normally, they will start with a very small amount to see if you will be willing to send. Then a week later, something else comes up, but this is after they say they “love” you this time. After you have sent them money over and over, you ask them when they are going to come see you and that is when they disappear. Once you send them the money, you will never see it again.
13. Never post how much money you make. Most dating sites ask you how much money you make a year, but they give you the option to select “rather not say.”
Shakedown Artists Normally Look For Profile That Reads
– Divorce or widower.
– Make over $100,000 a year
– Over 50 years old
– No kids at home
– Men and women who society deems not as attractive. Dater’s who bio sounds like the person has low self-esteem. If you have low self esteem,then online dating may not be for you,because you have become bait to all the predators online.
14. Before going out on a date check the National Sex Offender Registry database.
15. Before going online looking for love, make sure you are in a happy place yourself. Some people are desperate for love that they leave themselves open to be scammed. There are some good books and websites dedicated to help you reach that happy place.