Traveling with a new romantic partner to local restaurants, or taking weekend getaways may not be feasible these days. Your career, social life and morning coffee shop trips may also have all dried up during this pandemic but your dating life doesn’t have to. “There are simple processes in which one can date virtually and responsibly during the corona virus outbreak,” says Adam Lyons, Relationship Expert and Dating Coach. From optimizing your dating profile, to virtual dating, here are robust tips to keep dating alive during the pandemic.
Optimize Your Dating Profile
Whichever dating app you prefer the rules are always the same, take the time to craft a good profile. Start with some decent pictures. “While it is difficult to hire a professional photographer during this time, you can get some decent “studio feel” photos if you’re willing to think a little outside of the box,” says Lyons.
Try taking a picture while you stand in front of a window. Facing the window with your back to the room creates a depth of field behind you. This is the “movie look” that people prefer to see in pictures. In addition, the window diffuses the light from outside which will create an almost “studio lighting” effect.
Next, fill out your dating profile in full. This means answering every single question they have for the forms in full detail. If you’re stuck just remember the following. Focus on writing what you’re looking for, not who you are.
For example, instead of writing: “I like long walks from my TV to my fridge and back again as that’s all I can do during quarantine.”
Try: “I like someone that enjoys long walks from their TV to their fridge and back again as let’s be real that’s all someone can do during quarantine.
This is a more relatable statement and their inner monologue will be thinking “that’s me?!?!” and they’re more likely to want to connect with you.
After you have the profile down it’s time to swipe right frantically on everyone you like, then sit back and enjoy a cup of tea as you wait for them to reply.
“You’re not going to get a virtual date unless you can get the conversation flowing, so start with a well thought out message,” says Lyon.
Messages like “hi” or “Happy [insert day of the week here]!” are the worst to send, (because literally everyone does that) It’s far better to send a comment on something unique in their profile and then comment on it with a revelation. For example:
They say: I like chugging a beer on the weekend while watching the game
Your first message: “That is literally my favorite thing to do, so long as it’s Miller Light, not so much into corona anymore HAHA”
When you actually send a message based on something they care about your response rate goes up significantly.
Once you’re communicating you can move towards virtual dating. Some great virtual dates you can try include video games (from ‘Animal Crossing’ to virtual reality experiences there are tons of great games you can play together and they make incredible first dates). Also
Netflix and remote chill (watching a movie while you have Skype on and discussing key moments is a wonderful bonding experience and very similar to being in the same room.
Also, hiking alone but with FaceTime can be a wonderful bonding experience.
“After this initial date the bond between you should be strengthening,” says Lyons. “In a post-corona virus world we want to be sure we ACTUALLY like someone before the risk of meeting in person. After you’ve done a few of these you know you’re ready to move to the next step.”
Dating In Real Life
“After you’ve virtually dated, you’re probably ready for the first real date,” says Lyons. However, in a post corona virus world this is going to follow the old school rules of courtship. A date that leaves room for your virtue between you by keeping 6 feet of distance at all times.
A word of warning: this date may not be possible in all countries or states. It’s highly important you follow your state or government guidelines. However, where social distancing is allowed in public places for exercising you have plenty of opportunity for some great dates. Going on a hike together or even sitting across a picnic table while chatting is a great first date, where you can really get to talk freely in person and begin the process of actually dating in person.
“While these rules may sound archaic to those of us who remember the hook up culture of just a few months ago, in a world ravaged by a pandemic with no real solution in sight, these simple responsible dating tips will allow your dating life to continue, and who knows they also might just save your life,” says Lyons.