Singles have shared the deal-breaking traits they refuse to compromise on when dating somebody new.
Perth dating expert Louanne Ward deciphers what Australians really want in her Facebook group, She Said He Said, by asking members to reveal the qualities they find most attractive in potential partners.
In a recent survey of 1,000 singles, an overwhelming 91 percent said they would be instantly turned off someone who hated or ignored their pet.
Bad grammar, being vegan and showing too much skin on a first date were other top deal-breakers, along with chewing open mouthed and sending unsolicited sexually explicit photos.
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Louanne Ward, a relationship coach and dating expert from Perth, Western Australia
1. Disliking pets
A whopping 91 percent of singles said someone not having time for their pet would be a major turn off – which means it’s important to turn on the charm with fur babies from the outset.
‘We have to remember that pets have become a part of the family, so when you accept somebody into your life, it’s important to that person that you don’t dislike their pet,’ Ms Ward said.
Meanwhile, 26 percent of those surveyed said they would be deterred from dating someone who kept a reptile like a snake or lizard as a pet.
The issue drew passionate responses, with one woman recalling an ill-fated date with a man who was rude about her beloved dog.
‘I actually had one instance where a guy showed that he was interested to date me, complimenting me on my looks, but he was pushing my dog away and complaining about how much dog hair is on his pants,’ she said.
‘All while I had to put up with his bad breath and dirt under his long nails.’
Needless to say, there was no second date.
2. Not calling before the first date
More than half of those surveyed said they prefer to speak on the phone before meeting, so it’s best to call to arrange a first date.
While you are likely to initiate conversation by swiping on an app or chatting over social media, Ms Ward said it’s always worth your while to pick up the phone.
‘Psychologically, we connect better with somebody when we hear their voice. when they show the social confidence to call,’ she said.
3. Moving too fast
In the digital age of constant connectivity and instant gratification, it can be tempting to rush through relationship stages at breakneck speed.
But Ms Ward warns that moving too fast through the process is one of the biggest turn offs in modern dating.
Overt sexual advances and the sending of unsolicited nude photos too early in the game could cause the relationship to sour before it’s had a chance to flourish.
Ms Ward’s advice? ‘Slow it down, don’t move too fast.’
4. Showing too much skin
When it comes to wooing a new lover, Ms Ward said the old adage ‘less is more’ should be ignored – at least when it comes to clothing.
Showing too much skin is an instant turn off for men, according to those surveyed, because they assume their date is flaunting their figure to everyone they meet.
‘Believe it or not ladies, too much cleavage or too much leg – guys want something to be left to the imagination,’ Ms Ward said.
Topless bathroom selfies and photos taken in high-vis work uniforms were deal-breakers for women.
Ms Ward (pictured) found men are turned off by women who expose too much skin
5. Social media
Almost half of those surveyed said they were less interested in meeting a prospective date after flicking through their Facebook and Instagram accounts – so it’s crucial to clean your feed before jumping into the dating pool.
Ms Ward said it’s important to think about what image you are portraying if you’re on social media and dating at the same time.
Overt expressions of sexuality and constant partying were among the potential red flags listed for would-be partners.
6. Poor hygiene
Poor hygiene and taking zero pride in your physical appearance were unsurprising deal-breakers for almost everyone surveyed, Ms Ward revealed.
Unwashed hair and unkempt nails were major negatives on women, while badly groomed beards were the standout turn offs on men.
‘Little things go a long way,’ Ms Ward said. ‘Nobody wants to smell your body odour and nobody wants to smell your bad breath.’
What men value most in women
1. Honesty 21.3 percent
2. Confidence 20 percent
3. Playfulness 18 percent
4. Kindness/Gratefulness 14 percent
5. Loyalty 12.6 percent
1. Eyes 41.6 percent
2. Smile 29.6 percent
3. Bum 12.2 percent
4. Breasts 9.2 percent
5. Legs 7.4 percent
Source: Louanne Ward via She Said He Said
A whopping 91 percent of singles said someone not having time for their pet would be a major turn off – which means it’s important to turn on the charm with fur babies from the outset (stock image)
7. Bad manners
Being ghosted is almost expected in the modern dating world, which means basic manners and old-fashioned respect go a long way.
In a previous survey conducted by Ms Ward, men voted honesty the personality trait they look for most while women ranked it third most important behind humour and loyalty.
8. Being vegan
A staggering 71 percent of those surveyed said they would never date a vegan – but vegans didn’t have a problem stepping out with carnivores.
Ms Ward believes this is linked to the false perception that vegans try to change their partners to conform with their views – so it’s best to keep dietary preferences off your dating profile.
‘Letting somebody know before you have a chance to connect with them and before they’ve seen who you are [is a bad idea]. It’s really worth keeping that card to your chest,’ she said.
What women value most in men
1. Humour 19.6 percent
2. Loyalty and charisma 18.3 percent
3. Honesty 17 percent
4. Intelligence 14.37 percent
5. Kindness 12.4 percent
1. Eyes 27.3 percent
2. Smile 21 percent
3. Good teeth 18.75 percent
4. Height 18.75 percent
5. Their penis 14.1 percent
Source: Louanne Ward via She Said He Said
Bad grammar was a deal-breaker for 23 percent of singles, who said they would be turned off by suitors who repeatedly misspelled words and phrases over text (stock image)
9. Cursing and eating open mouthed
Good oral hygiene was an obvious deal-breaker for almost every person surveyed, but it seems singles also care about what’s coming out of their prospective partner’s mouth.
Constant cursing and over-sharing of personal information too early in the relationship was listed as a major turn off.
‘Think about your mouth – what you’re putting into it and what’s coming out of it,’ Ms Ward advised.
10. Bad grammar
Bad grammar was a deal-breaker for 23 percent of singles, who said they would be turned off by suitors who repeatedly misspelled words and phrases over text.
If spelling is not one of your natural strengths, Ms Ward advised downloading a free app like Grammarly which highlights where you’ve gone wrong.
‘The effort you put into communication is important to some people,’ she said.