Joe Goldberg, the dark protagonist of Netflix’s hit drama series “You,” has audiences enthralled — but there’s one problem.
Many of the show’s fans think the love-obsessed, homicidal lead is a psychopath, which may or not have to do with him stalking his girlfriend and locking them in glass boxes.
However, the word “psychopath” doesn’t describe a real medical condition.
“People use the word ‘psychopath’ colloquially to describe a person whose behavior defies social norms and conventional understandings of right and wrong,” Kelly Scott, a therapist at Tribeca Therapy in Manhattan, told Insider. “From a clinical perspective, the word ‘psychopath’ doesn’t mean anything.”
Scott said that the closest diagnosis that reflects the stereotypical representation of psychopaths in popular culture is antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). According to the Mayo Clinic, ASPD is a mental disorder that causes people to not have any regard for right or wrong, empathy, or the well-being of other people.
Though people with ASPD exhibit behaviors that would make for an unhealthy and even toxic partner, they are incredibly charismatic and good at faking empathy.
Here are four indicators that you may be dating a psychopath — or someone with ASPD — according to Scott.