Online dating is hard, especially in India, where it’s still transcending from a fad to a favoured choice in lifestyle. Gone are the days where your mummies used to skillfully and slyly set you up with your neighbour aunty’s daughter or make an embarrassing shaadi.com profile for you. Our generation now seeks to fend for themselves and mostly resort to meeting people in the virtual world. Sometimes it’s strange when people emerge out of your screens and have coffee with you, but it can also turn out to be fun and fruitful, if you know the right way to go about it.
Here are some dos and don’ts for online dating we need to pay attention to, to avoid heartbreaking future faux pas!
How Many Selfies Is Too Many Selfies?
Somehow women feel they’re more entitled to selfies than men are. After all, most of them have broken records in a selfie taking spree. So don’t steal their thunder and put up close and personal selfies on your profile. It’s a bit of a turn off and the game doesn’t end really well for you there.
Don’t Sound Cool When You’re Not
Most women prefer short, funny and witty bio profiles. Just like how men are exhausted reading ‘wanderlust’, ‘sapiosexual’, and ‘beardophile,‘ bibliophile ‘etc; women too cringe at ‘fitness freak’, ‘loves dogs’, ‘not here for hook-ups but to make friendship’ etc. Get more creative, guys. She will eventually find out what you like and dislike if you make her swipe right with something more interesting.
Don’t Be Creepy
So this is the cardinal rule of online dating… you know because it’s borderline psychotic for some women, so don’t do it! Don’t ever find a woman on Tinder you like and stalk her on Facebook by sending her creepy ‘fraandship’ messages. It’s repulsive and women hate it. They also secretly share your creepy messages with their friends and have a good laugh. Or sometimes your messages are made in to memes too! Why go through the atrocity of shame. Also, sending a friend request on Facebook, if she has swiped left on your Tinder profile, is a big no no.
Honesty goes a long way. Especially, when you really like someone and want it to go somewhere. If you don’t like dogs, say it! When she finds out you’re allergic to dogs instead, it’s going to really mess up your chances. Give her a chance to see the real you!
Don’t Sext Too Soon
Gauge what she likes, have some interesting conversations with her before you bring out the big guns. Sexting can go really wrong if she’s not really into it.
Meet Her But Not Too Soon
Take your time to get to know her. What defines a timeline to eventually meet up? Well, definitely not in the 24 hours you initiate conversation. Unless, of course, both of you are looking forward to a good romp and can’t wait. If you want to look for a suitable date, engage her in a conversation for a few days at least before you ask her out on a date. Having said that, don’t keep her waiting too long as well. She will look for greener pastures if you don’t pop the question on time. And yes, she probably may never ask you to meet her first!