Twenty-two-year-old Morgan and 28-year-old Arron met on a blind date, set up by a mutual friend.
She liked his ginger hair; he liked her voice.
Two years on, they’re happily engaged.
I first started noticing problems with my vision when I was six. I was diagnosed with a form of eye inflammation known as uveitis, as well as rheumatoid arthritis.
Over the past 20 years, my eyesight has deteriorated. I used to ride my bike around when I was 16; then my eyes played up again when I was about 18.
I eventually lost my sight completely in 2017.
Dating hasn’t been the greatest for me. I always found ‘picking up’ hard.
If someone looks at you and smiles, you can feel a connection and approach them. But I don’t get those visual cues.
I used dating apps like Tinder, but never with much success.
I would have to use super zoom to try and see people’s pictures, or I’d show my sister and ask if they looked alright. She would tell me which way to swipe.
When I lost my vision completely I thought, “That’s it, I’ve got no chance of meeting anyone.” I think a lot of blind people have that feeling.
I got to a point where I decided to leave it in the hands of the universe. And then bam — Morgan came along.
We met because our mutual friend organised for us to have dinner at her house. She told me, “She’s blonde, has a great personality and a great smile.”
I was a bit nervous. Obviously, I wanted to make a good impression. I wanted to hug Morgan, but that’s the thing about being blind: It can be awkward because you can’t see if they’re coming in for the hug, if they’re repelled, or if you might headbutt them.
But Morgan came straight over for a hug, and that impressed me.
For me, it really has always been a personality thing. When I met Morgan, I was just blown away by her and her interests.
On our first date alone, neither of us wanted to go home. We sat in her car for hours just talking, laughing, listening to music.
On our second date alone, we went out for dinner. I had my hand out looking for the table and Morgan just grabbed my hand and put it straight on my seat.
I thought, “Oh, wow. She gets me”. Those types of things in the early stages showed me she was a really selfless person.
Obviously, I wish I could see what she’s like. I think there’s part of Morgan that wonders if I’d still like her if I could see her.
At the end of the day, I’m just lucky she has an amazing personality and she’s a hottie — or so I hear.
On that first date, I was shitting myself. I knew things were going to be a bit different, but our friend described Arron as this really laid-back guy and that put me at ease.
We got along well, and he had a great sense of humour.
So, after that dinner I texted him first.
On our first date alone, we walked along the beach. We weren’t holding hands, so Arron was bumping into me and walking all over the place until he put his arm around me. I instantly thought, “Well now he knows I’m about a size 12”.
A few more dates in, he grabbed my elbow to guide him and apologised if it made me feel like his carer. I had asked my friend if I should hold his hand, and she assured me it wouldn’t be the end of the world if I walked him into something.
I nervously offered my hand instead and he took it instantly. It came strangely naturally.
One night, he played me a song on his guitar and I cried. He had no idea at the time because he couldn’t see.
I quietly pulled myself together before he pulled me in for an unexpectedly big first kiss. I couldn’t stop giggling.
There are some days I wake up with smudged mascara under my eyes and I’m like, “This is great, he can’t see”.
But sometimes it would be nice. It would be interesting to see the picture of me he’s created in his head, compared to what I do look like.
If he knows I’ve put in some effort, he’ll feel my hair, earrings and outfit and still tell me I look nice.
I’m usually the positive one who picks everyone else up, but somehow Arron is often the one picking me up. I’ve got my eyes; I’ve got my legs; I don’t have any major challenges, but he never really complains about his vision.
Obviously, there are some differences to past relationships, but I don’t see vision as a major factor. Through other relationships I learned how personalities can clash, but Arron’s pretty much the male version of me. All of our core values are the same. That’s where it’s really differed.
Every relationship has challenges, but I’d much prefer our challenges to be how we adapt our house, or how I need to be Arron’s ‘driver’, rather than concerns like “Do they like me?” or “Are they faithful?”
I think as we grow up, we have set ideals of what our future partner is going to be like. But our relationship has proven it’s important to be open to whatever happens.
We don’t always know what’s best for us.
Quotes have been edited for clarity and brevity.
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