Last Tuesday, I shared my story of what it was like to feel stuck in my business for the past four years and how I finally changed what I was doing to emerge in a better place in 2020.
I hope you found it somewhat inspiring. Armed with the knowledge that no matter how stuck you feel, there is always a way to change should provide great hope for 2021.
Now I understand why you might not be feeling much hope right now. Just look around.
We’ve got a global pandemic, the associated economic impact of that pandemic, a crisis in democracy, and a loneliness epidemic of being stuck at home 24/7.
Which is to say that it would be REALLY easy to give up all hope and believe that life sucks and there’s not much you can do to change that.
Except that’s not true.
Hundreds of women from around the world (including India, Singapore, France, Norway, Spain, Switzerland, Mexico and Abu Dhabi) enrolled in Love U last year.
They’re no different than you. Smart, strong, successful women who have everything except for their man. Frustrated, confused, and concerned that they’ll be alone forever.
The only difference, as far I can tell, is that they applied to Love U, did a breakthrough strategy session on Zoom, and enrolled in my signature coaching course – under the belief that doing SOMETHING to control your destiny is better than doing NOTHING.
Keep reading to learn how Love U graduates didn’t stay stuck in a horrible 2020.
They found love.
Here are a few emails I received in the past few months.
I always loved reading the success stories at the end of your emails and I am thrilled to report, you have another. In September, I married the love of my life. He isn’t what I pictured… 7 years older than me with a teenage daughter, works in the trades and earns less than me. But he’s kind and he adores me. He makes me feel safe, heard and understood… and those exact words were included in my vows. Your words that stuck with me throughout my journey to finding him. Early on, there were moments when I could have run for the hills like many before me had, because he was very intense and his home was a mess. But your voice was in my head and I liked him enough to see it through and I’m so glad I did. He’s a gem and we’ve built a life together that gives me so much joy. Thank you, Evan. For your sage advice and keeping my spirits up when I thought I’d never find him. Keep doing what you do. Women need you to bring clarity and hope that he is indeed out there.
Jackie & Nick
I have been wanting to send you this email for quite some time to thank you for your advice which has changed my life.
I am now 35 years old but stumbled across your website two and a half years ago after a bad breakup. The breakup left me devastated, and there was a point that I had resigned myself to being the stereotypical spinster cat lady for the rest of my life. I felt frustrated that despite dating seemingly different men (in terms of age, race, religion, socio-economic status, educational backgrounds, etc.), they all seemed to either be emotionally unavailable or lack stability (financial, professional, mental) or a combination thereof. Some say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over again and expecting a different result – and I realized then that if I continued to date as I had been, I would essentially be attracting more of the same men. I don’t quite remember what I typed into the search engine, but I believe it was something to the effect of “why is it hard for beautiful successful women to find a decent guy”. And ergo, I came across one of your blogs and became acquainted with your work. One of the first blog posts that I read was about online dating and how the percentage of eligible partners is fairly small and how to essentially separate the wheat from the chaff.
I was hooked! For a time, I lived and breathed your material. I listened to your podcasts when I was getting ready in the morning and while I walked to work. I purchased your book, “Why He Disappeared” and pored over it while eating dinner at a local Vietnamese restaurant. I felt enlightened and inspired. You helped me identify my blind-spots (acting as though I am the prize, being a little bit of a diva) and provided me with tools that helped me be a better date (being positive and pleasant, being gracious – no matter the date) and saved me time and energy (the 2-2-2 rule). As substance filled as I would have liked to believe that I was, you helped me realize how superficial I had been at times (for example, I love Mexican food and a guy I just started dating took me to this horrible Mexican restaurant to make me happy and rather than being appreciative, I became upset because the food wasn’t to my liking).
Before re-entering the online dating forum, I purchased the e-Cyrano Gold package, and worked with a talented and supportive writer who helped me develop one of the best online dating profiles out there (according to my husband!). I was on it for a month before I met my now husband. In the time leading up to our first date, my husband had messaged me several times but I paid him no mind as I went about talking with a few other men. Though my husband took the time to write me thoughtful messages that were tailored to my profile (no copying and pasting here!), I wasn’t interested in him namely because he is five years younger than me and isn’t exactly the tall, dark and handsome type who I gravitate towards (he is more short, fair, and nerdy). He was persistent, though, and eventually I decided to respond to him. After abiding by the 2-2-2 rule, he picked me up for our first date at an Italian restaurant in Baltimore’s Little Italy neighborhood called La Scala. Over two years later, we got married and had our wedding reception there.
Brandon is nothing like the type of man who I had been attracted to. But Brandon is one of the best men I personally know. He is honest, he is reliable, he is a man of character. He is a gentleman. He is grounded, mentally and emotionally stable, and hard-working. While I can’t say our relationship has been peppered with emotional highs (like the ones I’ve experienced in previous relationships), my love for Brandon continues to grow with each passing day as we navigate through this thing called life. He has been there for me through thick and thin (from cheering me on at awards ceremonies to comforting me when my grandmother passed away in the hospital). He challenges me and helps me grow into a better person.
Through your advice and the services you offer, you have improved my life immensely. You have given me the tools, information, and know-how to choose a better partner, which will, in turn, benefit any children that I may be so blessed to have. Though I am married, I continue to sing your praises and refer you to any single person that I hear may have difficulty dating (I have even interjected myself at restaurants where I overheard a group of people at a nearby table talk about the challenges of online dating and referred them to your site). The amount of times my single friends have heard “Evan Marc Katz” from my lips could have driven the Davidians out of Waco, I talk about you so much! I just can’t thank you enough, and I wish I could adequately convey just how appreciative and grateful I am to have come across your site. You gave me answers when I felt lost and confused. You gave me hope when I was ready to throw in the proverbial towel and give up. You helped me identify areas of improvement, which prompted me to modify my behavior to attract more of the type of man I sought. It’s not just smart, strong, successful women that you help – but each and every person who comes into contact with them because the improvements they make inwardly are reflected outwardly. I don’t think you will ever know how truly profound of an impact you make on the lives of others through your coaching.
I thought I’d share the New Year’s card my NEW HUSBAND and I sent to friends and family this year. My boyfriend, whom I met while I was doing Love U Masters coaching with Evan, proposed on February 29, 2019, at the very end of the Before Times, and we had a pandemic-sized wedding on November 14. We’re hoping to have a larger reception with friends and extended family next year.
I turned to Evan for private coaching in the summer of 2018, when I was 34. I’d never had a long-term relationship, and I was totally frustrated with how my efforts at dating were going. By the time I finished coaching, only about six months later, I was in a relationship with my now-husband. I still believe the secret to finding love is largely about finding the right person at the right time, but I think Evan’s guidance gave me the tools to do that and to help me recognize when I had found him.
We have a very happy relationship, and I’ve felt more myself since I’ve known my husband than I can remember feeling in many years. I’m especially grateful that we met before the pandemic! For all of you out there searching for your person, hang in there – I didn’t really think it could happen for me, but it did!
Happy New Year to all – wishing you hope and love in 2021.
And then there was this photo I received from Love U graduate, Marie and her husband, Yann, announcing the birth of their baby girl.
Marie was a 35-year-old doctor with no dating and relationship experience when she enrolled and is now a happily married mother of two 5 years later.
“Okay,” you may be thinking, “So some Love U grads got married and had kids this year. But what about women like me, trying to date during the pandemic? It’s impossible right now.”
Actually, it’s not.
On a recent Love U coaching call, I can recall, off the top of my head, SIX women who got into happy, easy, committed relationships in the past few months.
Jackie’s got a boyfriend.
Laura’s got a boyfriend.
Samantha’s got a boyfriend.
Judith’s got a boyfriend.
Rachel’s got a boyfriend.
Jana’s boyfriend just proposed!
These women are not going out with men indiscriminately during a crisis. They’re just using the man-screening tools in Love U to make the best of the circumstances.
In other words, this stuff works, no matter who you are or where you live.
Judith is a young black woman in New York. Samantha lives in Australia. Jana came into Love U hurt and jaded.
All of them started dating the Love U way in 2020 and found great men.
So what about you?
I know all the excuses. Time. Money. Kids. Your city. Your age. Men.
But really, the difference between women who are finding love and those who aren’t are only two things: Belief and action.
If you don’t believe anything’s gonna work, you’re not gonna do anything.
If you don’t do anything, nothing’s gonna work.
And if you don’t do anything, nothing’s gonna work.
It’s an airtight argument that may keep you single for the rest of your life.
But since the theme of this month is getting unstuck, I just wanted to remind you that falling in love is within your control. I see the wedding photos of happy clients every day.
You could be next. You should be next.
Click here to apply to Love U to get the love you want in the next few months.
Warmest wishes and much love,
P.S. EvanMarcKatz 3.0 is launching April 20, 2021. Put a note on your calendar now so you can be the first to check it out!
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